Jealous or Envious?

I've been thinking a lot recently about whether I'm jealous or envious of my co-workers and the lives they have.  Talking to people at my jobs leads to discussions about family game nights, vacations, going to the movies or other fun times.  Anyone who really knows me, knows all I do is work.  Hell, with 3 jobs, it's all I have time for.  I looked up jealousy and envy online to see which one better suited my thoughts and this is what I found.

The main difference between envy and jealousy is that envy is the emotion of coveting what someone else has, while jealousy is the emotion related to fear that something you have will be taken away by someone else.

Well that makes it pretty easy.  I can't be jealous because I don't have anything that anyone wants.  Guess I'm envious of my co-workers and their lives from time to time.  

  

First Off Site Task

Last week, I got the chance for my first off site project.  We were upgrading some computers for a local customer.  I went out on day one with a teammate to drop the equipment at the locations and determine which computers would be replaced.  Day two, I was on my own for the most part.  I had to go to a location by myself and handle switching the computers out.  I was nervous initially because I didn't want to screw anything up.  After a little while, I found my groove and got down to business.  All in all, I think everything went well.  They surveyed the customer after the upgrade and they were satisfied. 

Proper Cell Phone Use

I know we are in a society now where we feel we have to always be connected.  You can't go anywhere without your phone.  Home, work and play, phone must follow.  That being said, I feel there are some situations that warrant not talking on your phone.  I was in the bathroom at work the other day and heard someone in the other stall.  A minute later I realized he was actually talking on the phone while he was taking a shit.  Really?  Your conversation couldn't wait a few minutes?  To me, that is totally disgusting.  I wonder if the person on the other end knew what he was doing during the conversation.

Fashion Bloopers

Working in environments where I get to see a lot of people on a daily basis provides ample opportunity to observe what I consider fashion bloopers.  Now I could be wrong but some people are not built for certain clothes.  I know people will experiment with their wardrobe as they go through changes but damn.  Here are a few things I have seen recently that made me shake my head.

1.  How da hell are you a female wearing a titty shirt but you have not titties?
2.  How are you a "buff" guy in a tank top but you look like you need a sports bra on?
3.  How da hell do you sag skinny jeans?
4.  Why are you a plus size trying to wear petite clothes barely breathing in the tight shit?

Privileged Generation

Being in my 40s, I'm at a great place in my life.  I'm old enough to be grown but young enough to not be a senior citizen.  I can have a conversation with a 20yr and then talk to a 65yr just as easily.  Talking to the younger generation is always interesting.  The youth of today feel so entitled and privileged.  They think they should be given the world without working for it.  I was talking to a 20yr coworker the other day and she had a bad interaction with a customer.  She came to me and basically said she didn't have to put up with customers' shit for the little bit of money the company was paying her.  Keep in mind she is making over $10 per hour.  Fusses about not having money to get her hair and nails done.  Must be nice.  I know people that would put up with a lot more for a lot less. 

Unprotected Sex

I was having a conversation with one of my younger co-workers a couple of weeks ago (yea, I'm hella behind on blogging) and she started to tell me about this guy she was talking to.  During the conversation, I realized she had known the guy less than a month before having sex with him.  The even more disturbing fact is that she had unprotected sex with him.  Now I don't know if she takes birth control but she made the comment that he said his "pull out game is immaculate."  Nigga please.  Even if this is the case, his pull out game ain't gonna stop a STD.  Man, these kids these days is something else!

The Dynamic Duo

Last Friday marked the 7 month anniversary of my divorce.  The good thing about my divorce is that my wife and I agreed to everything with no bickering or fighting.  We are still the same type of parents we were when we were married.  Friday night, our oldest daughter decided to lie to me about her whereabouts.  Her mother presumed she was with me.  Fast forward to Saturday 5am.  My ex wife called me and we put two and two together.  Later on that day, our oldest daughter got to meet the dynamic duo.  Nothing was planned but you would have thought my ex and I had scripted a 45 interrogation of our daughter.  Every time I stopped, she picked up and ran with the ball.  Our oldest didn't know what to do or say.  Bottom line, she won't lie to us again.

A Reason, A Season, A Lifetime

People enter your life and they leave.  Their purpose in your life can usually be attributed to a reason, a season or a lifetime.  We sometimes put people into the wrong category with the line of thinking and have to make adjustments based on their actions.  I have/had a friend who I thought feel into the lifetime category.  Career moves separated us physically but we keep in touch via calls, emails and texts.  It's been a few months since I have heard from this friend.  I've tried reaching out but have yet to get a response.  I guess my lifetime friend was actually there to just get me through a season or I was there to get her through one. 

What's My Worth part 2

It's annual review time at my new job.  Considering I've only been there a few months, I didn't think I would get a review.  My manager called me into the conference room at my schedule time.  I thought we were going to talk about what I could work on to improve my performance.  I was surprised to learn that the company was impressed by my contributions to the team.  They decided to go against the norm and offer me a raise of $1000 per calendar year.  I was shocked.  I didn't think I had made that much of an impact but I guess that really goes to show what I'm really worth. 

Happy Unanniversary

Last month would have marked my 15-year wedding anniversary.  Instead it marked the 6 month anniversary of my divorce.  Kinda ironic that the divorce was finalized so that it would coincide with our wedding date.  I was talking to the ex-wife that day about some random stuff with the kids and said "Happy Unanniversary" to her.  Her reply was a simple, "ok."  A former coworker asked how was my anniversary this year.  My reply "uneventful." 

Father's Day 2019

Yea I know Father's Day was 3 weeks ago but if you know me then you know I love procrastination.  Anyway, Father's Day 2019 was uneventful.  I sent out text messages and a few messages on various social media platforms to guys I knew had kids.  I got a few replies back.  A few ladies that know me wished me a Happy Father's Day.  I received my gift a week later but it was still awesome.  My girls got me a 3-picture frame with photos of each of them around the same age.  Probably one of the best gifts I could receive.  It's on my desk at work right now.