Manipulation

Dictionary.com defines manipulation as:  to negotiate, control, or influence (something or someone) cleverly, skilfully, or deviously.  I've been thinking about manipulation a lot lately.  I've been pondering how much I manipulate others as well as how much they manipulate me.  The more I think about it, the more I am unhappy of the results.  My personality lends me to be very persuasive with a take charge kind of mentality.  I realize now that unknowingly, I am very manipulative.  Question is:  can I change that behavior and if so, how will it change who I am overall?